Saat kita menghormati
perbedaan antara kita dengan sahabat
kita terpana menemukan
begitu banyak kesamaan antarkita
dalam persahabatan.
Mutiara Andalas, S.J.
perbedaan antara kita dengan sahabat
kita terpana menemukan
begitu banyak kesamaan antarkita
dalam persahabatan.
Mutiara Andalas, S.J.
6 comments:
I miss a true good friend, Mo.
as far as I read comments about ur sisters, I feel a close bond between all of you. Cat, mice, and dog can live happily together in the same house.
It's always a challenge for a priest like me to have a close friend: approaching people as close as possible, yet drawing a boundary as clear as possible. It's always difficult to do it especially when u listen to other people who see me already crossing the boundary. I draw, re-draw, re-draw, and re-draw my boundary line.
Those comments were from my cousins, Mo. But of course they are like sisters to me. And yes we have a close bond especially with my own sisters. Thank God for that. Warning: We're all feisty!
I can understand your dilemma, Mo. People's eyes are on you. But that's sad if it prevents you from having a close friend. I don't know how my words can be comforting to you. I've been in the that shoes too: draw, re-draw, redraw and re-draw.
Both my mom and dad ever failed to draw that boundary line in relationship with other people. They almost destroyed family that they have built for more than 25 years. It was a 'traumatic' event not only for them, but for their sons and daughters. I am one of them.
After that event, I am very careful in building relationship with other people, esp. women, in order not to hurt them or to hurt those who love/are close to them.
Even a single statement from others, even said jokingly, can make me step back. I received some friendly 'reminders' about my close relationship with a new friend. It's time to re-draw my line without cutting nice relationship.
:-(
To re-draw often means to move closer in relationship. :-)
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